Indian weddings are big affairs and whenever we think of Indian weddings, the first thing that comes to our minds is colorful, vibrant, and extravagant. However, regardless of the scale and the culture in which the wedding is being conducted, one thing that remains common in all Indian weddings is the sacredness of ‘7 vachans’ or 7 vows. In India, the bride and the groom take 7 vows before entering the new life of ‘marraigehood’.
Each of the 7 vows has their own significance and together they serve as an anchor that reminds the couple to stick to each other through all the ups and downs in life. Let us see what the 7 vows signify:
In the first vow, the couple prays to the divine power to help them lead a noble life provide them with pure and nourishing food. In this vow, the groom vows to provide his family with food and shelter whereas the bride pledges to undertake all the household responsibilities and take care of groom’s entire family.
In the second vow, the groom pledges to be the strength of his family and protect them in all circumstances. The bride agrees to stand by his side and provide him with courage and motivation. She demands for his undivided attention and eternal love from the groom.
In the third vow, the couple pleads to the almighty to provide them with wisdom, wealth and prosperity. The groom swears to provide for the education of their children. The bride assures the groom that she will love him with all her commitment and will always remain chaste.
In the fourth vow, the groom thanks the bride for completing him in every way and for bringing auspiciousness, happiness, and sacredness in his life. The bride vows to fill his life with joy and please him in every possible way through her body and soul.
In the fifth vow, the couple thanks the almighty for providing them with a loving and caring partner and pray for well-being of their friends and family members. The bride pledges to be by her husband side in all his happiness and sorrow.
In the sixth vow, the couple seek blessing from almighty for their long lived togetherness as well as to provide them with self-control. The groom vows to fill his wife’s life with joy and peace. They agree to participate in all the noble, divine and spiritual acts together, as a couple.
This vow marks the completion of the wedding ceremony. Here the couple pleads to be one till eternity. They agree to serve their duties as husband and wife with complete dedication and loyalty. They take oath to nourish their relationship with complete honesty and be together not just in this life but in all the lives to come.
Even though these vows may differ slightly based on the culture and religion of the couple, but the basis of these 7 vachans in every religion is ‘commitment’. A promise to give everything to the relationship and a vow to stick to each other through every phase of life!